The 10 Things you Shouldn’t Say to a Single Parent
It’s amazing the things people will say to you when they find out you’re a single parent. It’s as if they have lost all self control and are just spewing out the first things that come to mind. It gets awkward for a minute when I answer back with a sarcastic response.
In order to prevent more of these interactions in the future, I’ve outlined the 10 things you shouldn’t say to a single parent – and how I’ll respond if you do.
1. How do you do it?
Do what exactly? Raise my son? The same way I would if I was still married. I work hard to provide for him and give him as much love as humanly possible. Some days are harder than others but we make it work! Our house is filled with so much love. That’s how I “do” it!
2. Where is his father?
At this very moment? I’m not sure. I don’t keep tabs on him because he has his own life. My son sees his dad every 6-weeks or so. It’s not ideal but it is what works for us right now. And, quite frankly, it’s no ones business but ours.
3. Did you at least try to make it work?
Again, it is no ones business what did or did not happen to my marriage. I can tell you that I didn’t get divorced over a pile of dirty clothes on the floor.
4. It must be so hard!
Parenting is hard! It’s hard whether or not you have a partner. So, of course being a single parent is hard, but it’s also rewarding. Seeing my son grow into a polite, smart, funny, caring and happy little boy and knowing that I did that…well…there’s no better feeling.
5. You must have a lot of help
We have a wonderfully supportive family that live close. However, they are the same supportive family we would have if I weren’t a single mom. The only difference is, I probably appreciate their help even more as a single mom.
6. What do you do with your son while you work full time?
Typically, I leave out a sandwich and let him know he’s on his own. I tell him not to answer the door to strangers then I kiss his forehead and head to work. REALLY!? What do you think I do? He goes to a wonderful daycare that is clean and safe. Just because I’m a working single mom doesn’t mean I would ever sacrifice getting the best care for my son.
7. Is your son okay?
Gosh, I hope so! I’m a worrier so I ask myself this question at least 572,921 times a day. Thanks to you, I’m now up to 572,922.
8. Have you spoken to someone?
I speak to lots of people! I love meeting and conversing with different people all the time! Grocery store, Facebook, daycare. If you’re asking me if I have gone to a counselor or psychiatrist, I’m done talking to you since that’s a wildly inappropriate question.
9. Do you ever get any alone time?
Actually, no. It’s very rare. I made the decision to have a child and any decision made after that doesn’t matter. I’m raising my son and he comes first, always! And, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
10. You poor things!
Poor? We are in no way, shape or form poor! I work my butt off to support us financially and I work my butt off to raise my son with manners, honesty, respect and lots and lots of love!